As Jethro Tull sang, “The Christmas Spirit is not what you drink.”
A few suggestions to keep in mind:
Stay in fit spiritual condition—
pg 100 (the context is doing 12-step work—Working With Others): “Assuming we are spiritually fit, we can do all sorts o things alcoholics are not supposed to do…” pg 102— “Go or stay away, whichever seems best. But be sure you are on solid spiritual ground before you start…”
You may say, “No” to invitations (or expectations) to attend functions where alcohol is served. Don’t let anyone guilt or pressure you into going if you are feeling vulnerable. Sometimes skipping these (work, family, friend) events IS being willing to do whatever it takes to stay sober.
Check your motives—
pg 101 has questions to ask of yourself: do you have a good reason to be there or are you really expecting to steal some vicarious pleasure from the atmosphere? Do you just want to watch others get drunk and make fools of themselves so you can feel righteous about staying sober? Or are you thinking about how you might carry the message (with your new, saner behavior, NOT with preaching or pointing out their flaws)?
Pg 102— Be sure “that your motive in going is thoroughly good…”
pg 103— And remember, “We are careful never to show intolerance or hatred of drinking as an institution.”
If you are in doubt or feeling lonely—
There are marathon meetings and get-togethers in large clubs and various group sober parties.
pg 102— “But if you are shaky, you had better work with another alcoholic instead!”
As Bill W said (pg 14), “For if an alcoholic failed to perfect and enlarge his spiritual life through work and self-sacrifice for others, he could not survive the certain trials and low spots ahead.” Pg 15, “…when all other measures failed, work with another alcoholic would save the day.”
Re-read the 10th-Step promises— (a partial description of the recovered alcoholic) on pgs 84-85. If you are confident that these are part of your sobriety TODAY, and you have made conscious contact with God, however you understand God—have a good time & Vaya Con Dios.
Drive yourself so you can leave when you want to; bring a sober friend for mutual support; keep your phone numbers handy in case of emergency; repeat the Serenity Prayer; drop your A.A. coin in a drink—if it doesn’t dissolve, don’t drink it, etc.
Merry Christmas and a Happy, Sober New Year to all of you.
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ETC, a recovered alcoholic in Oregon—relieved of the obsessions but not cured of the allergy.

