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A.A.’s Radical Recovery Plan

08 Jan

rad·i·cal  –fundamental: a radical difference;
forming a basis or foundation;
advanced  / favoring drastic reforms; deviating by extremes: especially as regards change from accepted or traditional forms;  thorough going

FOR A FULL RECOVERY (becoming recovered), FOLLOW THE INSTRUCTIONS; THE CLEAR-CUT DIRECTIONS: 

boot printsThe founders and pioneers made a fundamental difference in the outlook for chronic alcoholics. They provided a way out for them by following a ‘few simple rules’ in the plan they outlined in their textbook.  A radical change would result by taking the same “clear-cut directions” that showed how they RECOVERED.  This is the original, strong method. 
LINK
to Excerpts from Gresham’s Law and Alcoholics Anonymous

The A.A. Basic Text:
Big Book coverp. xxvii, The Doctor’s Opinion  

The cases we have followed through have been most interesting; in fact, many of them are amazing.
p. xxix, The Doctor’s Opinion:

On the other hand—and strange as this may seem to those who do not understand — once a psychic change has occurred, the very same person who seemed doomed, who had so many problems he despaired of ever solving them, suddenly finds himself easily able to control his desire for alcohol, the only effort necessary being that required to follow a few simple rules.
p. xxiii, Foreword to Fourth Edition
Like so much of A.A.’s basic text, those words have proved to be far more visionary than the founding members could ever have imagined.
p. xxii, Foreword to Third Edition
The basic principles of the A.A. program, it appears, hold good for individuals with many different lifestyles, just as the program has brought recovery to those of many different nationalities.
p. xxix, The Doctor’s Opinion 
One feels that something more than human power is needed to produce the essential psychic change.
p. xxix, The Doctor’s Opinion
This is repeated over and over, and unless this person can experience an entire psychic change there is very little hope of his recovery.
p. 8, Bill’s Story
I was to know happiness, peace, and usefulness, in a way of life that is incredibly more wonderful as time passes.
p.12, Bill’s Story
Upon a foundation of complete willingness I might build what I saw in my friend.
p. 13, Bill’s Story
Belief in the power of God, plus enough willingness, honesty and humility to establish and maintain the new order of things, were the essential requirements.
p. 14, Bill’s Story
God comes to most men gradually, but His impact on me was sudden and profound.
Belief in the power of God, plus enough willingness, honesty and humility to establish and maintain the new order of things, were the essential requirements.   …
These were revolutionary and drastic proposals, but the moment I fully accepted them, the effect was electric.
p. 27, There Is A Solution
He can go anywhere on this earth where other free men may go without disaster, provided he remains willing to maintain a certain simple attitude.
p.42, More About Alcoholism
But the program of action, though entirely sensible, was pretty drastic.
p.52, We Agnostics
But in most fields our generation has witnessed complete liberation of our thinking.
p. 55, We Agnostics:

Actually we were fooling ourselves, for deep down in every man, woman, and child, is the fundamental idea of God.
p. 59, How It Works
We asked His protection and care with complete abandon.
p. 63, How It Works
This was only a beginning, though if honestly and humbly made, an effect, sometimes a very great one, was felt at once.
p. 65, How It Works
Nothing counted but thoroughness and honesty.
p.68, How It Works
Just to the extent that we do as we think He would have us, and humbly rely on Him, does He enable us to match calamity with serenity.
p. 77, Into Action
Our real purpose is to fit ourselves to be of maximum service to God and the people about us.
p. 83, Into Action
If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through.
p. 84, Into Action
Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change.
p. 90, Working With Others
Then let his family or a friend ask him if he wants to quit for good and if he would go to any extreme to do so.
p. 98, Working With Others
Some of us have taken very hard knocks to learn this truth: Job or no job—wife or no wife—we simply do not stop drinking so long as we place dependence upon other people ahead of dependence on God.
p.142, To Employers
After satisfying yourself that your man wants to recover and that he will go to any extreme to do so, you may suggest a definite course of action.
p. 143, To Employers
Though you are providing him with the best possible medical attention, he should understand that he must undergo a change of heart.  …
To get over drinking will require a transformation of thought and attitude.
p. 145, To Employers
In fact, he may say almost anything if he has accepted our solution which, as you know, demands rigorous honesty.
p.153, A Vision For You
It may seem incredible that these men are to become happy, respected, and useful once more.
p. 568, Appendix II, Spiritual Experience

Willingness, honesty and open mindedness are the essentials of recovery.
p. 567, Appendix II, Spiritual Experience
The terms “spiritual experience“ and “spiritual awakening“ are used many times in this book which, upon careful reading, shows that the personality change sufficient to bring about recovery from alcoholism has manifested itself among us in many different forms.
p. 567, Appendix II, Spiritual Experience
He finally realizes that he has undergone a profound alteration in his reaction to life; that such a change could hardly have been brought about by himself alone.
p. 570, Appendix III The Medical View on A.A.:
Even among those who occasionally land back in here again, we observe a profound change in personality.  

12&12 p.92
Such a radical change in our outlook will take time, maybe a lot of time.
12&12 p.21, Step One
We perceive that only through utter defeat are we able to take our first steps toward liberation and strength.
12&12 p.22, Step One
When first challenged to admit defeat, most of us revolted. …
The principle that we shall find no enduring strength until we first admit complete defeat is the main taproot from which our whole Society has sprung and flowered.
12&12 p.36, Step Three
Therefore dependence, as A.A. practices it, is really a means of gaining true independence of the spirit.
12&12 p.50, Step Four
By now the newcomer has probably arrived at the following conclusions: that his character defects, representing instincts gone astray, have been the primary cause of his drinking and his failure at life; that unless he is now willing to work hard at the elimination of the worst of these defects, both sobriety and peace of mind will still elude him; that all the faulty foundation of his life will have to be torn out and built anew on bedrock.
12&12 p.59, Step Five
Only by discussing ourselves, holding back nothing, only by being willing to take advice and accept direction could we set foot on the road to straight thinking, solid honesty, and genuine humility.
12&12 p.64, Step Six
So in a very complete and literal way, all A.A.‘s have “become entirely ready“ to have God remove the mania for alcohol from their lives.
12&12 p.70, Step Seven Indeed, the attainment of greater humility is the foundation principle of each of A.A.‘s Twelve Steps.
12&12 p.72, Step Seven
We never thought of making honesty, tolerance, and true love of man and God the daily basis of living.
12&12 p.75, Step Seven
During this process of learning more about humility, the most profound result of all was the change in our attitude toward God.
12&12 p.87, Step Nine
For the readiness to take the full consequences of our past acts, and to take responsibility for the well-being of others at the same time, is the very spirit of Step Nine.
12&12 p.98, Step Eleven
But when they are logically related and interwoven, the result is an unshakable foundation for life.
12&12 p.107, Step Twelve
He finds himself in possession of a degree of honesty, tolerance, unselfishness, peace of mind, and love of which he had thought himself quite incapable.  …
When a man or a woman has a spiritual awakening, the most important meaning of it is that he has now become able to do, feel, and believe that which he could not do before on his unaided strength and resources alone.
12&12 p.114, Step Twelve
And as we grow spiritually, we find that our old attitudes toward our instincts need to undergo drastic revisions.
12&12 p.115, Step Twelve
After we come into A.A., if we go on growing, our attitudes and actions toward security — emotional security and financial security—commence to change profoundly.
12&12 p.131, Tradition One
By faith and by works we have been able to build upon the lessons of an incredible experience.
12&12 p.160, Tradition Seven

This principle is telling evidence of the profound change that A.A. has wrought in all of us.

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ETC, a recovered alcoholic in Oregon—relieved of the obsessions but not cured of the allergy.

 

 

SOBRIETY by OSMOSIS

05 Mar

To become recovered, we must continue to enlarge our spiritual life on a daily basis, continue doing the step work, and continue to do intense work with other alcoholics.  a.k.a.:  Trust God, Clean House, Help Others.
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MEANING 2 of Osmosis:
A gradual absorption of knowledge or ideas through continual exposure, rather than deliberate learning. A gradual, often unconscious process of assimilation–unconscious learning.  SYNONYMS: soft, malleable, elastic, cushioned.
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In some meetings you may hear, “You CAN get this program and stay sober by osmosis.
That is encouraging complacency and procrastination. These same people encourage a kinder, gentler, however-many-steps-you-want (whenever you want), method of hanging on to sobriety.  They are the one’s who pat you on the back and tell you “just keep going to meetings and you’ll be fine.”)  Some of these people would also like to convince you that recovery can be sexually transmitted (which is another form of osmosis).
Trying to recover by OSMOSIS is not a program of action, and does not come from A.A. literature.  Taking the 12 Steps is the path to recovery.  Remember, “It works if you work it,” not by passively sitting around in meeting after meeting and waiting for a 60-day rehab graduate or some A.A.-Wonder to fill your head full of wisdom and do your thinking for you.

Our Basis Text has all of the directions necessary to bring about permanent recovery from alcoholism. It also tells us—

“If you are as seriously alcoholic as we were, we believe there is no middle of the road solution.” (p. 25).
That means The 12-step Program is not meant to be ‘cafeteria style’ or ‘taking what we like and leaving the rest.’  Will sitting in meetings and coffee shops every day—soaking up non-AA rhetoric—be enough to be relieved of the obsessions and be restored to sanity?  For a non-alcoholic, sure… but not for a real alcoholic.
“We were in a position where life was becoming impossible, and if we had passed into the region from which there is no return through human aid, we had but two alternatives: One was to go on to the bitter end, blotting out the consciousness of our intolerable situation as best we could; and the other, to accept spiritual help. This we did because we honestly wanted to, and were willing to make the effort.
(p. 25).
We’re given two choices: Keep drinking or accept spiritual help and make an honest effort.
Will sitting in meetings every day, sharing how your therapist or ‘substance abuse’ counselor taught you their ‘interpretations’ of the steps be enough to get spiritual help for the necessary psychic change?  If you are non-alcoholic, sure… but not if your life has become impossible.

Chapter 5 is entitled, “How It Works” …Not ‘how it happens’ or ‘how we get it through osmosis.’

Page 58: “Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path” (the clear-cut directions) … “They are naturally incapable of grasping and developing a manner of living [way of life] which demands rigorous honesty.”
“If you have decided you want what we have and are willing to go to any length to get it— then you are ready to take certain steps [follow directions].”
“At some of these we balked. We thought we could find an easier, softer way. But we could not.”    …“Remember we deal with alcohol—cunning, baffling, powerful! Without help, it is too much for us. But there is One who has all power—that One is God. May you find Him now!”
page 59: Half measures availed us nothing. We stood at the turning point. We asked for His protection and care with complete abandon.”

Chapter 6 is entitled, “Into Action.” …Not ‘now we can rest on our laurels.’

Page 76: ” Now we need more action, without which we find that, “Faith Without works is dead.”

Other information from the AA textbook:

“But the actual or potential alcoholic, with hardly an exception, will be absolutely unable to stop drinking on the basis of self-knowledge” (p. 39)
“Admit that he probably knows more about it than you do, but call to his attention the fact that however deep his faith and knowledge, he could not have applied it or he would not drink” (p. 93)
“We have a way out on which we can absolutely agree, and upon which we can join in brotherly and harmonious action” (p. 17)
“He was positive that this humiliating experience, plus the knowledge he had acquired, would keep him sober the rest of his life. Self knowledge would fix it” “….for what I had learned about alcoholism did not occur to me at all. I knew from that moment that I had an alcoholic mind. I saw that will power and self-knowledge would not help in those strange mental blank spots” “…then they outlined the spiritual answer and program of action which a hundred of them had followed successfully” “…But the program of action, although entirely sensible, was pretty drastic” (pp. 40-42)

From the 12&12 book:

“First, we take a look backward and try to discover where we have been at fault; next we make a vigorous attempt to repair the damage we have done; and third, having thus cleaned away the debris of the past, we consider how, with our new-found knowledge of ourselves, we may develop the best possible relations with every human being we know” (p. 77)

 

Many people have relapsed several times, they come back to meetings, and proudly claim prior years of knowledge they gained in AA. (i.e., “I had 3 years before I relapsed, and 2 years before that–so I still have that knowledge & quality time”)  But according to the Basic Text, if they relapsed, they “could not have applied it or he would not drink.” Clearly, knowledge and Meeting Osmosis did not work to keep them sober.

To become recovered, we must continue the step work, continue to enlarge our spiritual life on a daily basis, and continue to do intense work with other alcoholics (free of charge).

 

 

Practicing the 12-Step Program

26 Jan

Excerpts from Gresham’s Law and Alcoholics Anonymous, by Tom Powers, Jr.

(emphasis added)

These wild and woolly early AAs, these psychologically illiterate, off scouring and rubbish of the world, these newly sobered up drunks set out to become totally committed men and women of God. The authors of the Big Book knew that their God centered, psychologically heretical, radical recovery plan was liable to jar many of the newcomers they were trying to reach with their message. Therefore, they made two moves to sugarcoat the pill.

First, they put the following disclaimer immediately after listing the Twelve Steps in chapter five”
Many of us exclaimed, “What an order! I can’t go through with it.” Do not be discouraged. No one among us has been able to maintain anything like perfect adherence to these principles. We are not saints. The point is that we are willing to grow along spiritual lines. The principles we have set down are guides to progress. We claim spiritual progress rather than spiritual perfection
That short paragraph was a stroke of inspiration, especially the phrase, “we are not saints.” It has eased thousands of new, half-convinced AA members (myself included) past the fact that we were headed, under the guidance of the Steps, in the completely unfamiliar direction of spiritual perfection.

The second sugarcoated pill gave us the freedom to take the Steps at our own pace and in our own way. This freedom quickly grew to be deeply cherished among AA members. Bill and Dr. Bob did one thing more to keep the spiritual rigor and power of the Twelve Steps from frightening new prospects (sugarcoated pill number two). They put the Steps forth as suggestions rather than as directives. The sentence which introduces the Steps in chapter five of the Big Book says: “Here are the steps we took, which are suggested [our italics] as a program of recovery.” This idea was greatly appreciated throughout the AA Movement from the time the Big Book was first published. We drunks hate to be told to do anything.

By 1941 (which was the year my father, Tom P., Sr., came into the Fellowship) it was possible to distinguish three variant practices of the AA Program, which we have labeled the strong-cup-of-tea, medium-cup-of-tea, and weak-cup-of-tea approaches. Strong AA was the original, undiluted dosage of the spiritual principles. Strong AAs took all twelve of the Steps – and kept on taking them. They did not stop with the admission of powerlessness over alcohol, but went on right away to turn their wills and lives over to God’s care. They began to practice rigorous honesty in all their affairs. In short order they proceeded to take a moral inventory; admit all their wrongs to at least one other person; take positive and forceful action in making such restitution as was possible for those wrongs; continue taking inventory, admitting their faults, and making restitution on a regular basis; pray and meditate every day; go to two or more AA meetings weekly; and actively work the Twelfth Step, carrying the AA message to others in trouble.


What we need to do is clear enough.
What we need to do is spelled out in the first seven chapters of the Big Book. What it all boils down to — especially for us old-timers — is a willingness to continue practicing all the principles in all our affairs today, rather than resting on our laurels, taking our stand on what we did way back when, in our first weeks and months of sobriety.

Link to “Gresham’s Law” on AAA Website

 

TAKING the Steps

06 Jun

TO TAKE (verb): accept, adopt; use (experience, practice); understand (believe, comprehend, think); be successful (operate, prevail, work); help oneself to (accept, attain).

For the ‘seriously alcoholic’ there IS NO middle-of-the-road solution, half-measures, short-cuts, or secular method to a full recovery. If you attend AA groups just to get court slips signed, please “take the cotton out of your ears, and put it in your mouth,” which suggests that you try to listen with an open mind, and comment or ask questions AFTER the meeting .

Studying the Steps is not the same as taking the Steps

The Big Book says, “Here are the steps we took” not ‘here are the steps we read and talked about.” We ought to study AS we take the steps. Going to a Big Book or 12&12 book study does NOT mean that you have ‘taken the steps.’  The AA pioneers proved that action, not knowledge, produced the spiritual awakening that resulted in recovery from alcoholism. “…we let God discipline us in the simple way we have just outlined. But this is not all. There is action and more action. Faith without works is dead.”

90 in 90’ is NOT taking the steps or working the AA Program

Archie M: “I wonder how many alcoholics upon finding out they had a deadly ailment and a doctor had a cure would sit in the doctor’s waiting room 90 times in 90 days (or for a year or more) and wait for the medicine to be administered to them. I also wonder how many alcoholics do the same thing concerning our 12 Steps; they go to 90 meetings in 90 days hoping to have a spiritual awakening without taking the Steps.”

Dr. Bob and the Good Oldtimers, page 101
“Dorothy S.M. recalled the 1937 meetings…”  “The newcomers surrendered in the presence of all those other people.  After the surrender, many of the steps—involving inventory, admission of character defects, and making restitution—were taken within a matter of days.”

How SOON should you take the steps?

Barefoot Bill Lash asks, “When do you want to get well?” Link here for his article on AA History Lovers group: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/AAHistoryLovers/message/6245

An excerpt:
“I have been scolded a few times (by fellow AAs) because of the fact that I sometimes share at meetings about how the Steps are meant to be worked immediately and quickly. I’ve been told that this “theory” will “harm” newcomers (having only a few days, a few weeks, or a few months) who could not possibly be “ready” to do the work yet. Then I’m usually told that these new members should just go to meetings for a while and eventually they’ll “know” when they are ready to get into the Program. In the early days of AA, when a new person showed up to their first meeting and asked about when they were going to get into working the Steps, established members usually asked them, “When do you want to get well?
If you want to get well now, we’ll be working the Steps now.
If you DON’T want to get well now, I guess you can put off the Steps, but by doing so you’re probably going to drink.” I do not agree that we first get our life together and then turn to God. I believe that we turn to God and then, AND ONLY THEN, do we begin to get our life together. That’s exactly what the Steps are all about.”

From the Akron Guide to The Twelve Steps—INTRODUCTION:
“The Twelve Steps are the logical process by which an alcoholic finds and maintains sobriety and becomes rehabilitated. It has been the history of AA that any alcoholic who has followed this program without deviation has remained sober. Those who have tried to cut corners, skip over steps, have eventually found themselves in trouble. This has been the rule rather than the exception.”
“It is important that the newcomer be introduced to the Twelve Steps at as early a date as possible. On these rules depend his full recovery. If you feel that the Steps are a bit too complicated at first, you can introduce them to your “baby” in a simplified form, going into the complete program later.”
The Twelve Steps follow a logical sequence, one that has been used almost universally by successful members of AA. They were carefully thought out by the founders of the organization and are as true and as necessary to successful recovery from alcoholism today as they were when they were written.”

If you have determined for yourself that you are seriously alcoholic, ask yourself, “Do I want to get well? …if so, how soon? …and am I now completely willing to follow a few simple rules for full recovery?”

Again—for the ‘seriously alcoholic’ there IS NO middle-of-the-road solution, half-measures, or short-cuts. As shown by early AA experience, we take the steps (action) ASAP IF we want to get well. We have our first spiritual awakening as the result of doing the work. As we continue to take the steps (more is disclosed to us as to what we had omitted during the first go-around), we have more spiritual awakenings. And so we continue on our daily spiritual maintenance to stay recovered from our seemingly hopeless state of mind and body.

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ETC, a recovered (but not cured) alcoholic in Oregon

Archie M: I wonder how many alcoholics upon finding out they had a deadly ailment and a doctor had a cure would sit in the doctor’s waiting room 90 times in 90 days (or for a year or more) and wait for the medicine to be administered to them. I also wonder how many alcoholics do the same thing concerning our 12 Steps; they go to 90 meetings in 90 days hoping to have a spiritual awakening without taking the Steps.”