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Don’t Scare Newcomers by Mentioning “God”??

09 Apr

More nonsense from the co-dependent, “I don’t want to offend anyone—I want everyone to like me” bunch of half-measures people-pleasers.
What kind of AA mentor would be more concerned with impressing, and not ‘offending’ a bunch of probably non-alcoholic people who are only there to get their court-slip signed—rather than in helping the “I’ve hit-bottom” alcoholic who is ready for help? The fact is, these ‘I-know-it-all-but-the-Big Book’ people may not be real, chronic alcoholics themselves and have never experienced that full spiritual awakening as a result of practicing and living all 12 steps. They cannot transmit something they don’t have (and never worked for) themselves. Sad.

Who is this Program for?
The REAL, HOPELESS ALCOHOLIC who has tried everything to control his/her drinking and now is completely willing to accept a spiritual solution to their dilemma.
“When, therefore, we were approached by those IN WHOM THE PROBLEM HAD BEEN SOLVED, there was NOTHING LEFT FOR US BUT TO PICK UP THE SIMPLE KIT OF SPIRITUAL TOOLS laid at our feet.”
Textbook pg. 25.  (Aha… that could explain the gurus—they haven’t yet found the solution to their problem.)
A.A groups’ primary purpose is for explaining the new way of life that a hopeless, drowning alcoholic can learn and enjoy “by following a few simple rules” with the “clear-cut directions” that our textbook lays out.

There is a Solution
Big Book coverRead page 25 of the textbook. In fact, if you haven’t read through page 43 a few times and not yet identified yourself as a REAL ALCOHOLIC, you may not need AA at all!
Read pages 44-45 of the textbook. The real alcoholic lacks power and must find a power by which  to live… a power GREATER THAN the self-centered, arrogant EGO.
That’s what the book is about—to help REAL ALCOHOLICS to find a greater power—which WILL SOLVE THEIR ALCOHOLIC PROBLEM. The book gives spiritual as well as moral direction and they are very clear that WE ARE GOING TO TALK ABOUT GOD. The textbook mentions God at least 140 times… the 12&12 has more references than that.

The term “God” is generic and not specific to any religion or philosophical belief system. There are many spiritual options for those who are not attracted to a particular DEITY: Buddhism, paganism, the rhythm of nature, Native American, etc. Our textbook mentions many other names for “god.” Read it and find out what they are!
“Something more than human power is needed to produce the essential psychic change” pg. xxix.

If you do not want to talk about God or spirituality
There are get-sober support groups that are NON-12-step/secular. They rely on their own intellect to stay sober or control their drinking. Or these people may view themselves as a god (tiger blood and the DNA of Adonis, and all that).
Here’s a link to a list of NON-GOD SOBRIETY GROUPS

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ETC, a recovered alcoholic in Oregon—relieved of the obsessions but not cured of the allergy.

 

A.A. Offers a Simple Kit of SPIRITUAL Tools

26 Dec

THERE IS A SPIRITUAL SOLUTION for alcoholics of our type.

Big Book coverAA Textbook, page 25: “There is a solution. Almost none of us liked the self-searching, the leveling of our pride, the confession of shortcomings which the process requires for its successful consummation. But we saw that it really worked in others, and we had come to believe in the hopelessness and futility of life as we had been living it. When, therefore, we were approached by those in whom the problem had been solved, there was nothing left for us but to pick up the simple kit of spiritual tools laid at our feet. We have found much of heaven and we have been rocketed into a fourth dimension of existence of which we had not even dreamed.”

SPIRITUAL vs SECULAR [a.k.a., 12-Step Recovery vs. Non-god (or self-as-god) abstinence or managed drinking]
SPIRITUAL =
of or pertaining to the spirit or soul, as distinguished from the physical nature;  of or pertaining to the spirit as the seat of the moral or religious nature; of or pertaining to sacred things or matters, religious, devotional, or sacred. Conscience contact with God (Higher Power), religious, otherworldly, celestial, of divine nature or essence, kind and loving, with strong character and integrity.
SECULAR =
of or relating to worldly as opposed to sacred things; temporal; not concerned with or related to religion; non-spiritual. Earthly, mundane, materialistic, self-reliant, physical, earthbound…
Progressive secularism
is understood as the dominance of naturalistic and scientific thought over supernatural explanations of reality.
Secular Humanism:
“Freethinkers;” non-theist; believe they are carrying the torch of reason in an otherwise religious world of bigotry and superstition.

AA IS NOT FOR EVERYONE! AA has never claimed to be a “one-size-fits-all” solution. AA is a suggested program of recovery ONLY FOR THOSE WHO CHOOSE IT as their way out of a hopeless life. In 1935 there were no other options!

Akron A.A. Manual, 1940: A.A. is not interested in sobering up drunks who are not sincere in their desire to remain completely sober for all time”

Therefore—if you are NOT a hopeless alcoholic (read thru page 43 in the A.A. textbook for A.A.’s definition) and you just have a little problem once in awhile, are ‘unwilling or unable’ to take the Steps or explore a relationship with a Higher Power other than yourself, or you simply don’t want to have to mix with those ‘losers’ in the AA cult.—there ARE legitimate and very successful methods available to try (including spending a LOT of money at a Cure Center).
LINK HERE for more information.

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ETC, a recovered alcoholic in Oregon—relieved of the obsession but not cured of the allergy.
 
 

A.A. Fundamentals

19 Nov

From: The Fundamentals – In Retrospect, By Dr. Bob Smith,
Copyright © AA Grapevine, Inc EXCERPTS are from this article in the September 1948 issue

For all those people who say the book is old-fashioned and we can interpret it any way we want to, READ THIS from a co-founder:

Pic of Doctor Bob Smith“Much has been written; much has been said about the Twelve Steps of AA. These tenets of our faith and practice were not worked out overnight and then presented to our members as an opportunist creed. Born of our early trials and many tribulations, they were and are the result of humble and sincere desire, sought in personal prayer, for divine guidance.

As finally expressed and offered, they are simple in language, plain in meaning. They are also workable by any person having a sincere desire to obtain and keep sobriety. The results are the proof. Their simplicity and workability are such that no special interpretations, and certainly no reservations, have ever been necessary. And it has become increasingly clear that the degree of harmonious living that we achieve is in direct ratio to our earnest attempt to follow them literally under divine guidance to the best of our ability.”


The Twelve Steps (The Program):
Simple in language
Plain in meaning
Workable be any person having the sincere desire to stay sober
So simple and workable that…

No special interpretations are necessary

No reservations are necessary

Harmonious living = our earnest attempt to follow them
LITERALLY
under divine guidance
to the best of our ability.

KEEP IT SIMPLE.  STICK WITH THE FUNDAMENTALS.

The result of humble & sincere desire, sought in personal prayer, for divine guidance.
“No random expressions, these, based on just casual observation. On the contrary, they represent the sum of our experiences as individuals, as groups within AA, and similarly with our fellows and other organizations in the great fellowship of humanity under God throughout the world. They are all suggestions, yet the spirit in which they have been conceived merits their serious, prayerful consideration as the guidepost of AA policy for the individual, the group, and our various committees, local and national.”

Our Leaders are Human Agents of the Higher Power (they don’t have halos)
“We have found it wise policy, too, to hold to no glorification of the individual. Obviously that is sound. Most of us will concede that when it came to the personal showdown of admitting our failures and deciding to surrender our will and our lives to Almighty God, as we understood him, we still had some sneaking ideas of personal justification and excuse. We had to discard them, but the ego of the alcoholic dies a hard death. Many of us, because of activity, have received praise, not only from our fellow AAs, but also from the world at large. We’ve all seen the new member who stays sober for a time, largely through sponsor-worship. Then maybe the sponsor gets drunk, and you know what usually happens. …Left without a human prop, the new member gets drunk, too. He has been glorifying an individual, instead of following the program.”

A Kitchen Table and a Coffeepot:
“Alcoholics Anonymous was nurtured in its early days around a kitchen table. Many of our pioneer groups and some of our most resultful meetings and best programs have their origin around that modest piece of furniture, with the coffeepot handy on the stove. True, we have progressed materially to better furniture and more comfortable surroundings. Yet the kitchen table must ever be appropriate for us. It is the perfect symbol of simplicity. In AA we have no VIPs, nor have we need of any. Our organization needs neither titleholders nor grandiose buildings. That is by design. Experience has taught us that simplicity is basic in preservation of our personal sobriety and helping those in need.”

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ETC, a recovered alcoholic in Oregon—relieved of the obsession but not cured of the allergy.

 

Real Alcoholic or Excessive Drinker?

06 Sep

All alcoholics are excessive drinkers, but not all excessive drinkers are alcoholics.

The AA Recovery program was intended for chronic, hopeless alkies who have given up hope of ever quitting drinking, getting a life, or becoming a responsible, contributing member of society. The Big Book defines ALCOHOLIC for us so we can decide if we are the sort who needs a spiritual upheaval to be relieved of the obsession to drink.
A REAL ALCOHOLIC—as defined in our textbook—must have both of these conditions present at the same time:
1) The obsession of the mind
—Cannot resist taking a drink even though he/she knows once they start they will experience the abnormal reaction. This is the “mentally ill” portion mentioned on page 64 – a.k.a., “INSANITY”
Combined with:
2) An abnormal reaction of the body
—This is the physically ill portion mentioned on page 64the physical allergy. Once any alcohol is taken into his or her system, something happens in the body that doesn’t happen to the average individuala physical phenomenon of “craving” develops, This craving makes it virtually impossible for him to stop, even if he wants and/or needs to stop.

These are conditions that ONLY A SPIRITUAL SOLUTION CAN SOLVE.

Just because you’re sitting in an AA meeting, that doesn’t necessarily mean you are an alcoholic. A “cute” anecdote gets said occasionally, “normies don’t end up in AA meetings.” That’s a ‘black & white’ / ‘either, or” statement. …and it’s misleading for the alcoholic looking for a real solution. Life has grey areas. Many people endure meetings to fulfill a court or treatment center obligation. They don’t want or need to be there—and they tell us.
Moderate drinking is impossible for every serious problem drinker and real alcoholic.

The pioneers of A.A. were concerned about ‘alcoholics of our type.’

Back to the Big Book:
Big Book coverP.30, More About Alcoholism—”We are convinced to a man that alcoholics of our type are in the grip of a progressive illness.”
Pg.10, Bill’s Story—
I had to be, for I was hopeless.”
Pg. xxv, Doctor’s Opinion—
… was an alcoholic of a type I had come to regard as hopeless.”  “I personally know scores of cases who were of the type with whom other methods had failed completely.”
Pg.43, More About Alcoholism—
As to two of you men, whose stories I have heard, there is no doubt in my mind that you were 100% hopeless, apart from divine help.”
Pg. 20, There Is A Solution—
Doubtless you are curious to discover how and why, in the face of expert opinion to the contrary, we have recovered from a hopeless condition of mind and body.
Pg. 92, Working With Others—
If you are satisfied that he is a real alcoholic, begin to dwell on the hopeless feature of the malady.”  
Pg.94,
Working With Others—
The more hopeless he feels, the better.”
Pg.44, We Agnostics—
To one who feels he is an atheist or agnostic such an experience seems impossible, but to continue as he is means disaster, especially if he is an alcoholic of the hopeless variety.”

…and so many more references.

If YOU can take your time and just choose not to drink, FINE. But DON’T confuse the newcomers in meetings—many who ARE hopeless—with YOUR version of sobriety. That’s dangerous and you may be risking their life. Some who go back out and ‘slip’ don’t make it back—they fall over the brink because of all the weak messages from non-alcoholics.

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ETC, a recovered (but not cured of the allergy) alcoholic in Oregon