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“Just keep coming back and you’ll be OK”

07 Jun

That is dangerous and potentially life-threatening advice for a chronic alcoholic (or addict). If that is all an alky hears from the meeting gurus, they will end up drinking again and telling everyone, “I tried A.A. and it doesn’t work.” Of course A.A. doesn’t work for those who refuse to do the necessary footwork, are unwilling to go to any length, or still believe that someday they will be able to control their drinking.  Meetings may keep a drunk sober for an hour or even a whole day, but to rely on meeting attendance as “your program” for a new way of living is NOT the solution.

Pic A A meetingListening for group members who speak the truth is how to tell the difference between the “know-it-all-but-the-big book” meeting regulars from the A.A.s who actually practice the steps and the spiritual principles (we cannot transmit something we haven’t received) and have had life-changing spiritual experiences.

The twelve steps are the solution.
Newcomers and dry-drunks need to hear that spoken in ALL 12-step meetings—that is the purpose of the groups!  Practicing ALL the steps, in order, following the textbook instructions (not any personal or non-alcoholics interpretations)  IS the solution—it is “the path” that we must be willing to thoroughly follow.  THIS is the action necessary for long-term emotional sobriety.

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ETC, a recovered alcoholic in Oregon—relieved of the obsession but not cured of the allergy.

 

A.A. literature censorship?

12 Feb

Has your sponsor or home group forbidden you to read from any AA literature that has not been sanctified by AAWS? Maybe they call it “AA-approved?”

Pic of Bill Wilson“Here at the Foundation we are not policemen, we’re a service and AA’s are free to read any book they choose.” ~Bill Wilson

“An A.A. which no longer follows the traditional A.A. program laid down by the good old-timers, will lose its heart and spirit, and its power to transform human lives and lift lost souls out of the miry pit where they had lain them down to die…How could it conceivably be ‘against the rules’ in A.A. to read what these good old-timers wrote, and the books that they advised newcomers to read?” ~Barefoot Bob Hardison, DOS: 2/28/1974

The following information is summarized from Barefoot Bob’s website.

There is no Tradition that can or should or will censor or “censure” what is presented at a meeting. An AA member may read anything anytime, anywhere, and for any purpose. There is no Tradition that says otherwise. Our Traditions were never intended to prohibit free speech, or freedom of religion or spiritual path by AAs or others.
There is no such thing as “AA-Approved” Literature
and A.A. has no index of forbidden books, and never will have. Many good pamphlets and books from early Alcoholics Anonymous are available for us to use for our ‘new way of living.’

From GSO Box 4-5-9 (Volume 23, No 4)
“Any literature that pertains to the principles of AA or is approved by a GROUP CONSCIENCE—is perfectly acceptable to be read by any AA member or in an AA meeting.”

Until 1993 books which were owned, copyrighted and printed by AAWS were identified by the use of a Circle-Triangle Symbol bearing the three legacies. In 1993 after losing the copyright, AAWS stated that “Alcoholics Anonymous will phase out the ‘official’ use of the circle and triangle symbol in and on its literature, letterheads and other material.” In fact, that document was issued without a conference action or a “group conscience.” (Link to more info)
This term “Conference Approved literature” replaces the original logo only to  IDENTIFY (AAGV Vol. 50-7 1993) the books solely owned, copyrighted and published by AAWS and not as a predetermined list and does NOT mean the Conference disapproves of any other publications.

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Pic A A meetingPLEASE, study the textbook and ANY literature from the founders and pioneers (many pamphlets using Bill and Bob’s messages are NOT AAWS material).  These materials ARE ‘AA-related literature.’ So, unless a meeting’s group conscious specifically states that they censor literature, i.e. “only conference-approved literature may be read in this meeting” you are free to use other AA literature.
Just keep in mind that outside literature–medical, psychiatric, legal, self-help–is NOT AA-related, so reading and discussing these in meetings is not in accordance with AA’s Singleness of Purpose.

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ETC, a recovered alcoholic in Oregon—relieved of the obsession but not cured of the allergy.

 

PURPOSES: Primary, Singleness of, Sole

12 Nov

Tradition One (long form): “Each member of Alcoholics Anonymous is but a small part of a great whole.  A.A. must continue to live or most of us will surely die. Hence our common welfare must come first. But individual welfare follows close afterward.”
We are then given eleven other Traditions that show us what we must do in order to accomplish the goal of unity that allows recovery.

PRIMARY PURPOSE

Tradition Five (long form): “Each Alcoholics Anonymous group ought to be a spiritual entity having but one primary purpose—that of carrying its message to the alcoholic who still suffers.”
From the AA Preamble (Grapevine):
“Our primary purpose is to stay sober and help other alcoholics to achieve sobriety.”

SINGLENESS OF PURPOSE

Bill Wilson, AA Comes of Age, page 232: OUR SINGLE PURPOSE:
Pic of Bill Wilson“There are those who predict that A.A. may well become a new spearhead for a spiritual awakening throughout the world. When our friends say these things, they are both generous and sincere. But we of A.A. must reflect that such a tribute and such a prophecy could well prove to be a heady drink for most of us – that is, if we really came to believe this to be the real purpose of A.A., and if we commenced to behave accordingly. Our Society, therefore, will prudently cleave to its single purpose: the carrying of the message to the alcoholic who still suffers. Let us resist the proud assumption that since God has enabled us to do well in one area we are destined to be a channel of saving grace for everybody.”

THE SOLE PURPOSE OF AN A.A. GROUP

Letter from Bill Wilson dated 1966 and quoted in “As Bill Sees It”, page 79
Pic of Bill Wilson“An AA group, as such, cannot take on all the personal problems of its members, let alone those of nonalcoholics in the world around us. The AA group is not, for example, a mediator of domestic relations, nor does it furnish personal financial aid to anyone. Though a member may sometimes be helped in such matters by his friends in AA, the primary responsibility for the solutions of all his problems of living and growing rests squarely upon the individual himself. Should the AA group attempt this sort of help, its effectiveness and energies would be hopelessly dissipated. This is why sobriety—freedom from alcohol—through the teaching and practice of AA’s 12 Steps, is the sole purpose of the group. If we don’t stick to this cardinal principle, we shall almost certainly collapse. And if we collapse we cannot help anyone.

Tradition Ten: “Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought Big Book covernever be drawn into public controversy.”  Long form: “No A.A. group or member should ever, in such a way as to implicate A.A., express any opinion on outside controversial issues-particularly those of politics, alcohol reform, or sectarian religion. The Alcoholics Anonymous groups oppose no one. Concerning such matters they can express no views whatever.”

Our instructions are to keep our opinions (as AA members) out of “outside issues” AND to keep “outside issues” out of our meetings.

  • Personal opinions as a result of critical thinking are good, but not if we try to pass them off as A.A. opinions… so it is suggested that we make clear when something is our own opinion.
  • Outside agencies have their own views on alcoholism AND A.A. So we avoid spreading opinions: ours, our sponsor’s, our doctor’s, our therapist’s, the judge’s (even if he is your sponsor), your 3-year clean addiction counselor, a dry-drunk oldtimer, or any other guru you hold on a pedestal, etc. AA meetings are the place to spread THE AA message—to teach and practice our Recovery Program: The 12 Steps.

From the Grapevine, May 1994: Our singleness of purpose has really been put to the test with the growth of treatment facilities which lump all addictive disorders together, with the subsequent visits of large numbers of treatment graduates to our groups, and with the mandatory sentencing of drunk driving offenders to AA meetings. Meanwhile, our own AA members aren’t always aware of our Traditions . . . A group conscience will get exactly what it demands, no more or no less. Our experience today still bears out the experience of our founders. Some groups, where the alcoholics became outnumbered and the primary purpose was lost in problems other than alcohol, have had to close their doors. . . In AA Comes of Age, we find this powerful statement: “We think we should do one thing well rather than many things to which we are not called. Our society gathers in unity around this concept. The very life of our fellowship requires its preservation. Together we have found a substantial remedy for a terrible malady. As a fellowship we know we must not be diverted. It is our experience as alcoholics that makes us of unique value on our sector of the total alcoholic front. We can approach sufferers as no one else can. Therefore, the strongest kind of moral and ethical compulsion is upon us to do this and nothing more. We shall direct our energies where they count most. Most emphatically, then, AA has but one single purpose: To carry its message to the alcoholic who still suffers. This is our basic objective, our real reason for existence.” It’s our only reason for existence.
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If your group pulls in a lot of “I just need my slip signed, I’m fine & can control MY drinking—but let me teach all of you how to stay sober my D&A counselor’s way” visitors—you might consider suggesting in your group-conscious format that they are welcome to sit in and LISTEN. If you call on them and they spew their nonsense, it is accepting outside issues into your meeting and that is confusing for the newcomer who NEEDS TO HEAR THE ACTUAL A.A. MESSAGE!  Remember “It’s in the book.”

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ETC, a recovered alcoholic in Oregon—relieved of the obsession but not cured of the allergy.


 

ETC, a recovered alcoholic in Oregon—relieved of the obsession but not cured of the allergy.

 

 

 

 

 

SERVICE… Does it mean, “give us more money?”

09 Oct

AA is not a Business, we are a Fellowship

Our inverted Triangle helps us to remember that in service we are expected to be trusted servants.

From The Twelve Concepts for World Service:
“12. The Conference shall observe the spirit of A.A. tradition, taking care that it never becomes the seat of perilous wealth or power; that sufficient operating funds and reserve be its prudent financial principle; that it place none of its members in a position of unqualified authority over others; that it reach all important decisions by discussion, vote, and whenever possible, substantial unanimity; that its actions never be personally punitive nor an incitement to public controversy; that it never perform acts of government; that, like the Society it serves, it will always remain democratic in thought and action.”

Why would districts and areas pressure groups to donate MORE money and lay on guilt trips instead of being good stewards of their prudent reserves? Is that really being of humble service? …or is it carrying the message that groups are there to SERVE THE DISTRICT?

BUDGETING

The economy is in the toilet… donations at meetings are down due to so many people being unemployed, underemployed, from having to pay big bucks for all their diversion requirements, or from various family obligations ($10 can buy a couple jugs of milk and a loaf of bread). The “average joe and jane” are budgeting. Hmm-mm, what a concept!

Can your district/area cut down on get-togethers which demand spending more money? Are workshops so important now when the attendees are usually the same bunch of people anyway? Can you find cheaper meeting places, or does your intergroup insist you spend your money to support them? (“oh, those districts have plenty of money.”) Do you really need to foot the bill to send all those GSOs to area meetings–or do you just want to impress them with the financial power of your district? (if their homegroup can’t afford to send them, can’t you also see that the group cannot afford to donate big bucks to your district?)
Too many hands in the cookie jar.

No guilt trips

…for smaller groups who are working hard at carrying the full 12-step message to save lives of alcoholics who are searching for a new way of living.
…or for mega-meetings– each group is autonomous and they may spend group money how their group conscience decides! If they choose to spend money on free dinners at speaker meetings to attract newcomers, then so be it.

 
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