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A.A. Fundamentals

19 Nov

From: The Fundamentals – In Retrospect, By Dr. Bob Smith,
Copyright © AA Grapevine, Inc EXCERPTS are from this article in the September 1948 issue

For all those people who say the book is old-fashioned and we can interpret it any way we want to, READ THIS from a co-founder:

Pic of Doctor Bob Smith“Much has been written; much has been said about the Twelve Steps of AA. These tenets of our faith and practice were not worked out overnight and then presented to our members as an opportunist creed. Born of our early trials and many tribulations, they were and are the result of humble and sincere desire, sought in personal prayer, for divine guidance.

As finally expressed and offered, they are simple in language, plain in meaning. They are also workable by any person having a sincere desire to obtain and keep sobriety. The results are the proof. Their simplicity and workability are such that no special interpretations, and certainly no reservations, have ever been necessary. And it has become increasingly clear that the degree of harmonious living that we achieve is in direct ratio to our earnest attempt to follow them literally under divine guidance to the best of our ability.”


The Twelve Steps (The Program):
Simple in language
Plain in meaning
Workable be any person having the sincere desire to stay sober
So simple and workable that…

No special interpretations are necessary

No reservations are necessary

Harmonious living = our earnest attempt to follow them
LITERALLY
under divine guidance
to the best of our ability.

KEEP IT SIMPLE.  STICK WITH THE FUNDAMENTALS.

The result of humble & sincere desire, sought in personal prayer, for divine guidance.
“No random expressions, these, based on just casual observation. On the contrary, they represent the sum of our experiences as individuals, as groups within AA, and similarly with our fellows and other organizations in the great fellowship of humanity under God throughout the world. They are all suggestions, yet the spirit in which they have been conceived merits their serious, prayerful consideration as the guidepost of AA policy for the individual, the group, and our various committees, local and national.”

Our Leaders are Human Agents of the Higher Power (they don’t have halos)
“We have found it wise policy, too, to hold to no glorification of the individual. Obviously that is sound. Most of us will concede that when it came to the personal showdown of admitting our failures and deciding to surrender our will and our lives to Almighty God, as we understood him, we still had some sneaking ideas of personal justification and excuse. We had to discard them, but the ego of the alcoholic dies a hard death. Many of us, because of activity, have received praise, not only from our fellow AAs, but also from the world at large. We’ve all seen the new member who stays sober for a time, largely through sponsor-worship. Then maybe the sponsor gets drunk, and you know what usually happens. …Left without a human prop, the new member gets drunk, too. He has been glorifying an individual, instead of following the program.”

A Kitchen Table and a Coffeepot:
“Alcoholics Anonymous was nurtured in its early days around a kitchen table. Many of our pioneer groups and some of our most resultful meetings and best programs have their origin around that modest piece of furniture, with the coffeepot handy on the stove. True, we have progressed materially to better furniture and more comfortable surroundings. Yet the kitchen table must ever be appropriate for us. It is the perfect symbol of simplicity. In AA we have no VIPs, nor have we need of any. Our organization needs neither titleholders nor grandiose buildings. That is by design. Experience has taught us that simplicity is basic in preservation of our personal sobriety and helping those in need.”

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ETC, a recovered alcoholic in Oregon—relieved of the obsession but not cured of the allergy.

 

SERVICE… Does it mean, “give us more money?”

09 Oct

AA is not a Business, we are a Fellowship

Our inverted Triangle helps us to remember that in service we are expected to be trusted servants.

From The Twelve Concepts for World Service:
“12. The Conference shall observe the spirit of A.A. tradition, taking care that it never becomes the seat of perilous wealth or power; that sufficient operating funds and reserve be its prudent financial principle; that it place none of its members in a position of unqualified authority over others; that it reach all important decisions by discussion, vote, and whenever possible, substantial unanimity; that its actions never be personally punitive nor an incitement to public controversy; that it never perform acts of government; that, like the Society it serves, it will always remain democratic in thought and action.”

Why would districts and areas pressure groups to donate MORE money and lay on guilt trips instead of being good stewards of their prudent reserves? Is that really being of humble service? …or is it carrying the message that groups are there to SERVE THE DISTRICT?

BUDGETING

The economy is in the toilet… donations at meetings are down due to so many people being unemployed, underemployed, from having to pay big bucks for all their diversion requirements, or from various family obligations ($10 can buy a couple jugs of milk and a loaf of bread). The “average joe and jane” are budgeting. Hmm-mm, what a concept!

Can your district/area cut down on get-togethers which demand spending more money? Are workshops so important now when the attendees are usually the same bunch of people anyway? Can you find cheaper meeting places, or does your intergroup insist you spend your money to support them? (“oh, those districts have plenty of money.”) Do you really need to foot the bill to send all those GSOs to area meetings–or do you just want to impress them with the financial power of your district? (if their homegroup can’t afford to send them, can’t you also see that the group cannot afford to donate big bucks to your district?)
Too many hands in the cookie jar.

No guilt trips

…for smaller groups who are working hard at carrying the full 12-step message to save lives of alcoholics who are searching for a new way of living.
…or for mega-meetings– each group is autonomous and they may spend group money how their group conscience decides! If they choose to spend money on free dinners at speaker meetings to attract newcomers, then so be it.

 
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God—as I am learning to understand God

25 Aug

GOD:  A Few Definitions

First Known Use:  before 12th century
The supreme or ultimate reality:  as the Being perfect in power, wisdom, and goodness who is worshiped as creator and ruler of the universe.

DEITY:  the rank or essential nature of a god; one exalted or revered as supremely good or powerful.

Absolute Being, alien force, All Knowing, All Powerful, Allah, Almighty, Alpha and Omega, Beginning and End, Creator, Divine Being, Goddess, Father, Grandfather, Great Spirit, Guardian Spirit, Higher Power, Holy Spirit, incorporeal being, Infinite Spirit, Jehovah, King of Kings, Lord, Maker, demon, divinity, holiness, idol, Life and LOVE, master, not-of-this-earth, omnipotent, power, prime mover, providence, soul, spirit, spirit of the universe, supernatural being, Supreme Being, totem, tutelary, universal life force, world spirit.

A GOOD-LUCK CHARM?

A Good Luck Charm is “an object that protects a person from trouble.” It’s a game of chance; a gamble. Am I treating god as a good-luck charm?
– If I take God along with me as I go about my business—I’m treating God as my good-luck charm.
– If I ask Him each day to bless my projects and plans—I’m treating God as a magic genie.

A DESIGNER GOD …A “Do-It-Yourself Deity”?

There’s a lot of stuff tossed out in the fellowship and carried into meetings about ‘defining’ your own god—to make a list of what you WANT god to be. Sure, that’s the ticket, then It’s YOUR god, and nobody else’s.  This is SELF which means EGO!
These are the same people who tell you you’re TOO SICK to think for yourself–are saying that making up a god isn’t a big deal and apparently doesn’t need much consideration?

A widely-used MISQUOTE from the AA text is, “a god of my understanding.” This implies making up a god. This phrase is not in the Big Book. Nowhere in the AA textbook is it suggested to “make up our own god.”
Big Book cover–  Big Book, page 59:
“…to the care of God, as we understood Him.”
–  Page 59:
“Sought … to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, …”

This implies ‘however little we may understand Him at this point—today.’  It gives us the hope that as we practice conscious contact on a daily basis, and practice doing His will for us, that understanding will grow.
“Our own conception of God”
also does not say that we just make something up. This phrase suggests that we let go of ‘our preconceived notions,’ our ‘touchiness,’ our ‘antagonism,’ and our close-mindedness about all spiritual things.
Big Book cover–  Big Book, page 568:
“We can only be defeated by an attitude of intolerance or belligerent denial.” “Willingness, honesty, and open-mindedness are the essentials of recovery”
–  page 49:
“We have learned that whatever the human frailties of various faiths may be, those faiths have given purpose and direction to millions.”

Our first recovery teachers discovered that THERE IS ONE WHO HAS ALL POWER

Big Book, page 59: “Without help it is too much for us. But there is One who has all power—that One is God. May you find him now!”

For a beginner who is trying to “grasp the flimsy reed,” the appropriate phrase to start with may be, “God as I DON’T understand Him.”

Step 12 and A Spiritual Awakening

By this time, “most of us think this awareness of a Power greater than ourselves is the essence of spiritual experience.” (page 568). This is the first part of our Awakening. Another is “we have RECOVERED, and have been given the power to help others.” (page 132)

GOD IS A LIMITLESS GOD

So how can anyone understand all there is to know about The ONE?
There are various names for God …many religious options and sacred writings to explore …countless paths to enlightenment …many ways to describe God.
But, eleven of our steps are about building a relationship with this God. The many pioneers of our program of recovery found out that alcoholics ‘of our type’ needed a spiritual solution and they recommended continued religious study of your choice.

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ETC, a recovered alcoholic in Oregon—relieved of the obsession but not cured of the allergy.

 

Complacency & Self-Satisfaction

31 May

IF I STOP GROWING AND GIVING, I WILL STAGNATE AND
REVERT BACK TO MY OLD SELF

What will be on my tombstone plaque? How will I be remembered? Have I made all my amends? Is there more work for me to do? Have I been paying attention to God’s nudges for service? Am I becoming the person God wants me to be? Am I continuing practicing all the spiritual principles on a daily basis?
EASY A.A. can give me relief from my addictive substance, but does NOT relieve my addiction(s).
“Whah-ah-ah, it’s too hard. I’m too messed up… Oops, I guess I’m still a sick bastard… I’m a victim… I’m entitled to have someone else do all the work.”

OLD-TIMER BLUES

“Happy, joyous, and free” doesn’t mean I now have the luxury of making excuses to sit on by butt and stay comfortable with what I’ve done so far. Working My Program My Way is a convenient way to be satisfied that, I have a large collection of sponsorees who hang on every word I say (not on what that old-fashioned Big Book says). or, IVE DONE ENOUGH, damn it—someone else should be doing the work of carrying the message in meetings.

Big Book, page 181 (Dr. Bob’s Nightmare):
“I spend a great deal of time passing on what I learned to others who want and need it badly. I do it for four reasons: 1) Sense of duty. 2) It is a pleasure. 3) Because in so doing I am paying my debt to the man who took time to pass it on to me. 4) Because every time I do it I take out a little more insurance for myself against a possible slip.

STEP NINE: AMENDS and RESTITUTION

Have you been putting off making important amends, because well, it’s just really hard and inconvenient right now, and… Gosh I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings (which means your own)?  …
IF SO—DO NOT attempt to ‘teach’ the newcomer how to ‘thoroughly work the steps’ until you can actually, honestly, demonstrate that you are working on these principles in all your affairs—family relations, legal issues, debts, fears of the future, doubt in God, feelings of bitterness, as well as facing all your addictions and obsessive behaviors.

SPIRITUAL FELLOWSHIP and TRUTH-CENTERED GROUPS

If you haven’t found a strong-message-carrying fellowship group—START ONE.  If you can no longer go to meetings at certain clubs because they’ve become sick and dangerous—OPEN UP A NEW CLUB with a clear, healthy mission statement and a no-bull**** board of directors.

Big Book, page 85:
“It is easy to let up on the spiritual program of action and rest on our laurels. We are headed for trouble if we do, for alcohol is a subtle foe. We are not cured of alcoholism. What we really have is a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition.”
Big Book, page 164:
“…you must remember that your real reliance is on Him. He will show you how to create the fellowship you crave. …Abandon yourself to God as you understand God. Admit your faults to Him and your fellows. Clear away the wreckage of your past. Give freely of what you find…”

Thomas E Powers, from “Invitation to a Great Experiment”
“Individual, personal work on oneself, trying to apply the principles of honesty and responsibility and fair dealing in the regular daily affairs of one’s own life—this, of course, is basic. But without the further aid of a specific kind of group activity, the best efforts at self-honesty are likely to become slipshod, ingrown, and curiously blind after a time.
Why is special group work necessary? Because I can’t see my own faults clearly, no matter how hard I try. In the right kind of group, I can get a look at myself through the eyes of others in a way that is deeply revealing and deeply releasing….
The (original) thing in itself is clean, sane, and profound—and it is one of the essential tools of the spiritual life. It is not new. It is very old. It is what the early Christians were doing in their meetings. It is what Gautama’s people were doing in the sangha. It is what the Essenes did, and the Therapeutae, and the Desert Fathers, and the Hesychasts, and the Benedictines, and indeed every for-real spiritual group that ever existed.
…I am talking about groups who work with the simple power of the principles, and without tricks, gimmicks, idiocy, or publicity… they are relatively rare and hard to find, but they do exist. And if you can’t find one you can found one.”

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ETC, a recovered (but not cured of the allergy) alcoholic in Oregon