RSS
 

Posts Tagged ‘any lengths’

A.A.’s Radical Recovery Plan

08 Jan

rad·i·cal  –fundamental: a radical difference;
forming a basis or foundation;
advanced  / favoring drastic reforms; deviating by extremes: especially as regards change from accepted or traditional forms;  thorough going

FOR A FULL RECOVERY (becoming recovered), FOLLOW THE INSTRUCTIONS; THE CLEAR-CUT DIRECTIONS: 

boot printsThe founders and pioneers made a fundamental difference in the outlook for chronic alcoholics. They provided a way out for them by following a ‘few simple rules’ in the plan they outlined in their textbook.  A radical change would result by taking the same “clear-cut directions” that showed how they RECOVERED.  This is the original, strong method. 
LINK
to Excerpts from Gresham’s Law and Alcoholics Anonymous

The A.A. Basic Text:
Big Book coverp. xxvii, The Doctor’s Opinion  

The cases we have followed through have been most interesting; in fact, many of them are amazing.
p. xxix, The Doctor’s Opinion:

On the other hand—and strange as this may seem to those who do not understand — once a psychic change has occurred, the very same person who seemed doomed, who had so many problems he despaired of ever solving them, suddenly finds himself easily able to control his desire for alcohol, the only effort necessary being that required to follow a few simple rules.
p. xxiii, Foreword to Fourth Edition
Like so much of A.A.’s basic text, those words have proved to be far more visionary than the founding members could ever have imagined.
p. xxii, Foreword to Third Edition
The basic principles of the A.A. program, it appears, hold good for individuals with many different lifestyles, just as the program has brought recovery to those of many different nationalities.
p. xxix, The Doctor’s Opinion 
One feels that something more than human power is needed to produce the essential psychic change.
p. xxix, The Doctor’s Opinion
This is repeated over and over, and unless this person can experience an entire psychic change there is very little hope of his recovery.
p. 8, Bill’s Story
I was to know happiness, peace, and usefulness, in a way of life that is incredibly more wonderful as time passes.
p.12, Bill’s Story
Upon a foundation of complete willingness I might build what I saw in my friend.
p. 13, Bill’s Story
Belief in the power of God, plus enough willingness, honesty and humility to establish and maintain the new order of things, were the essential requirements.
p. 14, Bill’s Story
God comes to most men gradually, but His impact on me was sudden and profound.
Belief in the power of God, plus enough willingness, honesty and humility to establish and maintain the new order of things, were the essential requirements.   …
These were revolutionary and drastic proposals, but the moment I fully accepted them, the effect was electric.
p. 27, There Is A Solution
He can go anywhere on this earth where other free men may go without disaster, provided he remains willing to maintain a certain simple attitude.
p.42, More About Alcoholism
But the program of action, though entirely sensible, was pretty drastic.
p.52, We Agnostics
But in most fields our generation has witnessed complete liberation of our thinking.
p. 55, We Agnostics:

Actually we were fooling ourselves, for deep down in every man, woman, and child, is the fundamental idea of God.
p. 59, How It Works
We asked His protection and care with complete abandon.
p. 63, How It Works
This was only a beginning, though if honestly and humbly made, an effect, sometimes a very great one, was felt at once.
p. 65, How It Works
Nothing counted but thoroughness and honesty.
p.68, How It Works
Just to the extent that we do as we think He would have us, and humbly rely on Him, does He enable us to match calamity with serenity.
p. 77, Into Action
Our real purpose is to fit ourselves to be of maximum service to God and the people about us.
p. 83, Into Action
If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through.
p. 84, Into Action
Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change.
p. 90, Working With Others
Then let his family or a friend ask him if he wants to quit for good and if he would go to any extreme to do so.
p. 98, Working With Others
Some of us have taken very hard knocks to learn this truth: Job or no job—wife or no wife—we simply do not stop drinking so long as we place dependence upon other people ahead of dependence on God.
p.142, To Employers
After satisfying yourself that your man wants to recover and that he will go to any extreme to do so, you may suggest a definite course of action.
p. 143, To Employers
Though you are providing him with the best possible medical attention, he should understand that he must undergo a change of heart.  …
To get over drinking will require a transformation of thought and attitude.
p. 145, To Employers
In fact, he may say almost anything if he has accepted our solution which, as you know, demands rigorous honesty.
p.153, A Vision For You
It may seem incredible that these men are to become happy, respected, and useful once more.
p. 568, Appendix II, Spiritual Experience

Willingness, honesty and open mindedness are the essentials of recovery.
p. 567, Appendix II, Spiritual Experience
The terms “spiritual experience“ and “spiritual awakening“ are used many times in this book which, upon careful reading, shows that the personality change sufficient to bring about recovery from alcoholism has manifested itself among us in many different forms.
p. 567, Appendix II, Spiritual Experience
He finally realizes that he has undergone a profound alteration in his reaction to life; that such a change could hardly have been brought about by himself alone.
p. 570, Appendix III The Medical View on A.A.:
Even among those who occasionally land back in here again, we observe a profound change in personality.  

12&12 p.92
Such a radical change in our outlook will take time, maybe a lot of time.
12&12 p.21, Step One
We perceive that only through utter defeat are we able to take our first steps toward liberation and strength.
12&12 p.22, Step One
When first challenged to admit defeat, most of us revolted. …
The principle that we shall find no enduring strength until we first admit complete defeat is the main taproot from which our whole Society has sprung and flowered.
12&12 p.36, Step Three
Therefore dependence, as A.A. practices it, is really a means of gaining true independence of the spirit.
12&12 p.50, Step Four
By now the newcomer has probably arrived at the following conclusions: that his character defects, representing instincts gone astray, have been the primary cause of his drinking and his failure at life; that unless he is now willing to work hard at the elimination of the worst of these defects, both sobriety and peace of mind will still elude him; that all the faulty foundation of his life will have to be torn out and built anew on bedrock.
12&12 p.59, Step Five
Only by discussing ourselves, holding back nothing, only by being willing to take advice and accept direction could we set foot on the road to straight thinking, solid honesty, and genuine humility.
12&12 p.64, Step Six
So in a very complete and literal way, all A.A.‘s have “become entirely ready“ to have God remove the mania for alcohol from their lives.
12&12 p.70, Step Seven Indeed, the attainment of greater humility is the foundation principle of each of A.A.‘s Twelve Steps.
12&12 p.72, Step Seven
We never thought of making honesty, tolerance, and true love of man and God the daily basis of living.
12&12 p.75, Step Seven
During this process of learning more about humility, the most profound result of all was the change in our attitude toward God.
12&12 p.87, Step Nine
For the readiness to take the full consequences of our past acts, and to take responsibility for the well-being of others at the same time, is the very spirit of Step Nine.
12&12 p.98, Step Eleven
But when they are logically related and interwoven, the result is an unshakable foundation for life.
12&12 p.107, Step Twelve
He finds himself in possession of a degree of honesty, tolerance, unselfishness, peace of mind, and love of which he had thought himself quite incapable.  …
When a man or a woman has a spiritual awakening, the most important meaning of it is that he has now become able to do, feel, and believe that which he could not do before on his unaided strength and resources alone.
12&12 p.114, Step Twelve
And as we grow spiritually, we find that our old attitudes toward our instincts need to undergo drastic revisions.
12&12 p.115, Step Twelve
After we come into A.A., if we go on growing, our attitudes and actions toward security — emotional security and financial security—commence to change profoundly.
12&12 p.131, Tradition One
By faith and by works we have been able to build upon the lessons of an incredible experience.
12&12 p.160, Tradition Seven

This principle is telling evidence of the profound change that A.A. has wrought in all of us.

_____________________________________________________________________________
ETC, a recovered alcoholic in Oregon—relieved of the obsessions but not cured of the allergy.

 

 

‘Tis The Season

24 Dec

As Jethro Tull sang, “The Christmas Spirit is not what you drink.” 
A few suggestions to keep in mind:

Stay in fit spiritual condition
pg 100 (the context is doing 12-step work—Working With Others): “Assuming we are spiritually fit, we can do all sorts o things alcoholics are not supposed to do…”  pg 102— “Go or stay away, whichever seems best. But be sure you are on solid spiritual ground before you start…”

You may say, “No” to invitations (or expectations) to attend functions where alcohol is served. Don’t let anyone guilt or pressure you into going if you are feeling vulnerable.  Sometimes skipping these (work, family, friend) events IS being willing to do whatever it takes to stay sober.

Check your motives—
pg 101 has questions to ask of yourself:  do you have a good reason to be there or are you really expecting to steal some vicarious pleasure from the atmosphere?  Do you just want to watch others get drunk and make fools of themselves so you can feel righteous about staying sober? Or are you thinking about how you might carry the message (with your new, saner behavior, NOT with preaching or pointing out their flaws)?
Pg 102— Be sure “that your motive in going is thoroughly good…”
pg 103— And remember, “We are careful never to show intolerance or hatred of drinking as an institution.”

If you are in doubt or feeling lonely—
There are marathon meetings and get-togethers in large clubs and various group sober parties.
pg 102— “But if you are shaky, you had better work with another alcoholic instead!”
As Bill W said (pg 14), “For if an alcoholic failed to perfect and enlarge his spiritual life through work and self-sacrifice for others, he could not survive the certain trials and low spots ahead.” Pg 15, “…when all other measures failed, work with another alcoholic would save the day.”

Re-read the 10th-Step promises— (a partial description of the recovered alcoholic) on pgs 84-85.  If you are confident that these are part of your sobriety TODAY, and you have made conscious contact with God, however you understand God—have a good time & Vaya Con Dios.
Drive yourself so you can leave when you want to; bring a sober friend for mutual support; keep your phone numbers handy in case of emergency; repeat the Serenity Prayer; drop your A.A. coin in a drink—if it doesn’t dissolve, don’t drink it, etc.

Merry Christmas and a Happy, Sober New Year to all of you.

 

_____________________________________________________________________________
ETC, a recovered alcoholic in Oregon—relieved of the obsessions but not cured of the allergy.

 

 

SOBRIETY by OSMOSIS

05 Mar

To become recovered, we must continue to enlarge our spiritual life on a daily basis, continue doing the step work, and continue to do intense work with other alcoholics.  a.k.a.:  Trust God, Clean House, Help Others.
_________________________________________________
MEANING 2 of Osmosis:
A gradual absorption of knowledge or ideas through continual exposure, rather than deliberate learning. A gradual, often unconscious process of assimilation–unconscious learning.  SYNONYMS: soft, malleable, elastic, cushioned.
_________________________________________________
In some meetings you may hear, “You CAN get this program and stay sober by osmosis.
That is encouraging complacency and procrastination. These same people encourage a kinder, gentler, however-many-steps-you-want (whenever you want), method of hanging on to sobriety.  They are the one’s who pat you on the back and tell you “just keep going to meetings and you’ll be fine.”)  Some of these people would also like to convince you that recovery can be sexually transmitted (which is another form of osmosis).
Trying to recover by OSMOSIS is not a program of action, and does not come from A.A. literature.  Taking the 12 Steps is the path to recovery.  Remember, “It works if you work it,” not by passively sitting around in meeting after meeting and waiting for a 60-day rehab graduate or some A.A.-Wonder to fill your head full of wisdom and do your thinking for you.

Our Basis Text has all of the directions necessary to bring about permanent recovery from alcoholism. It also tells us—

“If you are as seriously alcoholic as we were, we believe there is no middle of the road solution.” (p. 25).
That means The 12-step Program is not meant to be ‘cafeteria style’ or ‘taking what we like and leaving the rest.’  Will sitting in meetings and coffee shops every day—soaking up non-AA rhetoric—be enough to be relieved of the obsessions and be restored to sanity?  For a non-alcoholic, sure… but not for a real alcoholic.
“We were in a position where life was becoming impossible, and if we had passed into the region from which there is no return through human aid, we had but two alternatives: One was to go on to the bitter end, blotting out the consciousness of our intolerable situation as best we could; and the other, to accept spiritual help. This we did because we honestly wanted to, and were willing to make the effort.
(p. 25).
We’re given two choices: Keep drinking or accept spiritual help and make an honest effort.
Will sitting in meetings every day, sharing how your therapist or ‘substance abuse’ counselor taught you their ‘interpretations’ of the steps be enough to get spiritual help for the necessary psychic change?  If you are non-alcoholic, sure… but not if your life has become impossible.

Chapter 5 is entitled, “How It Works” …Not ‘how it happens’ or ‘how we get it through osmosis.’

Page 58: “Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path” (the clear-cut directions) … “They are naturally incapable of grasping and developing a manner of living [way of life] which demands rigorous honesty.”
“If you have decided you want what we have and are willing to go to any length to get it— then you are ready to take certain steps [follow directions].”
“At some of these we balked. We thought we could find an easier, softer way. But we could not.”    …“Remember we deal with alcohol—cunning, baffling, powerful! Without help, it is too much for us. But there is One who has all power—that One is God. May you find Him now!”
page 59: Half measures availed us nothing. We stood at the turning point. We asked for His protection and care with complete abandon.”

Chapter 6 is entitled, “Into Action.” …Not ‘now we can rest on our laurels.’

Page 76: ” Now we need more action, without which we find that, “Faith Without works is dead.”

Other information from the AA textbook:

“But the actual or potential alcoholic, with hardly an exception, will be absolutely unable to stop drinking on the basis of self-knowledge” (p. 39)
“Admit that he probably knows more about it than you do, but call to his attention the fact that however deep his faith and knowledge, he could not have applied it or he would not drink” (p. 93)
“We have a way out on which we can absolutely agree, and upon which we can join in brotherly and harmonious action” (p. 17)
“He was positive that this humiliating experience, plus the knowledge he had acquired, would keep him sober the rest of his life. Self knowledge would fix it” “….for what I had learned about alcoholism did not occur to me at all. I knew from that moment that I had an alcoholic mind. I saw that will power and self-knowledge would not help in those strange mental blank spots” “…then they outlined the spiritual answer and program of action which a hundred of them had followed successfully” “…But the program of action, although entirely sensible, was pretty drastic” (pp. 40-42)

From the 12&12 book:

“First, we take a look backward and try to discover where we have been at fault; next we make a vigorous attempt to repair the damage we have done; and third, having thus cleaned away the debris of the past, we consider how, with our new-found knowledge of ourselves, we may develop the best possible relations with every human being we know” (p. 77)

 

Many people have relapsed several times, they come back to meetings, and proudly claim prior years of knowledge they gained in AA. (i.e., “I had 3 years before I relapsed, and 2 years before that–so I still have that knowledge & quality time”)  But according to the Basic Text, if they relapsed, they “could not have applied it or he would not drink.” Clearly, knowledge and Meeting Osmosis did not work to keep them sober.

To become recovered, we must continue the step work, continue to enlarge our spiritual life on a daily basis, and continue to do intense work with other alcoholics (free of charge).

 

 

‘Recovered’ or Still ‘Only Recovering’?

19 Apr

There can be no confusion if we accept the Big Book as our basic text for recovery.

There are MANY references to full recovery in our textbook. When we come in to AA, we are sick, but we should be learning that we can get well if we would apply the AA principles on a daily basis. This is rarely being taught any more. Far too often we hear that we are “always sick,” with an emphasis on problems.

Too many long-term-sobriety AAers STILL DO NOT BELIEVE what is taught to us in the Big Book.

  • Are they confusing the word “recovered” with the word “cured?” Our text clearly makes the distinction.
  • Have they never read our textbook or thoroughly and honestly taken the Steps?
  • Have they not found a Higher Power that they believe will solve their problem?
  • Have they not turned their will and life over to the care of God as they understand God nor have asked God’s protection and care with complete abandon or have they maybe become self-sufficient again?
  • Have they not thoroughly taken Step Two, and therefore do not believe that God has restored them to sanity?
  • Have they never had a spiritual awakening as the result of doing the work of the steps? That IS the first requirement in Step 12 for carrying the message to your prospect. (Unless you HAVE RECOVERED, what is it that you have to say or offer to your prospect (or that desperate newcomer sitting in a meeting) that could be of any value?)
  • Or are they satisfied and comfortable in practicing only a few spiritual principles, once-in-awhile?

Our “24-Hour Plan” (pages 85 thru 88) doesn’t mention we should beseech God to grant us one more day of staying sober. If someone with 20+ years is proud of “still recovering, never recovered,” they clearly don’t study our Basic Text, the writings from our Pioneers, and have not been working on the FULL Program. With daily maintenance of my spiritual condition I don’t have to ‘white-knuckle’ sobriety.

In direct contradiction to the Big Book, “Pop AA” people tell us we’ll “never recover,” “always be recovering,” and “never get well.” The messages from Bill W. and the first one hundred recovered alcoholics (p. xiii) uses the word “recovered” approximately twenty-three times; “recover,” twenty-eight; and “recovering,” only twice, and then in the context of the newcomer.

We CAN accept that we NEVER BECOME CURED from the physical allergy.

Once we take a drink the phenomenon of craving will be triggered. This is what it means to say “we are not cured from alcoholism” (p. 85). But once we become recovered, the mental obsession to drink is removed. The physical allergy is rather a moot point. We now do not have to take that first drink.

Being recovered is conditional. The only solution/condition is “a daily reprieve, based on the maintenance of our spiritual condition.” Complete recovery from alcoholism is not only possible, but probable, provided I’m willing to go to any length to achieve it.

Pg xvii, Foreword to the 2nd Edition reminds us that “…strenuous work, one alcoholic with another, was vital to PERMANENT RECOVERY.”
Pg 132: “We have recovered and been given the power to help others.”
Pg 98: “Burn the idea into the consciousness of every man that he can get well regardless of anyone. The only condition is that he trust in God and clean house.” And to stay well, we help others.
Pg. 42: “…they outlined the spiritual answer and program of action which a hundred of them had followed successfully.” “…the discovery that spiritual principles would solve all my problems.

From The Akron Guide to the Twelve Steps:
“It is important that the newcomer be introduced to the Twelve Steps at as early a date as possible. On these rules depend his full recovery. If you feel that the Steps are a bit too complicated at first, you can introduce them to your ‘baby’ in a simplified form, going into the complete program later.”

I believe that alcoholism is what has happened in my life, not what is currently happening. I accept that I can’t EVER drink again and although I am not cured of alcoholism (I still have to follow the directions) my ‘knowledge and experience’ proves to me that I have made a full recovery and I don’t have to remain still sick and suffering from alcoholism anymore. The good old-timers laid a simple kit of spiritual tools at our feet; a spiritual mode of living—if I remain willing to follow them. I remain in a state of grace (recovered) by staying in fit spiritual condition on a daily basis and practicing the spiritual principles in all my affairs. This means that I can no longer blame my aberrant actions on “being a sick alcoholic,” “my disease kicking in,” “my alcoholic mind,” or anything else. This process continues for a lifetime—there are no vacations or breaks. But God and the principles of AA have brought me from an extremely hopeless state of mind and body to a place of reasonable comfort, happiness, and peace.

And AFTER we have recovered, we know that we are given the Power to help others. It is one of the promises of the Big Book.

WHEN can an AA member claim to be fully recovered?

The answer to this question is found only in the heart and conscience of the individual AAer, and is based on the quality, not quantity, of one’s sobriety. When a person is recovered, he/she will know it.

ETC—a recovered (but not cured) alcoholic in Oregon