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TAKING the Steps

06 Jun

TO TAKE (verb): accept, adopt; use (experience, practice); understand (believe, comprehend, think); be successful (operate, prevail, work); help oneself to (accept, attain).

For the ‘seriously alcoholic’ there IS NO middle-of-the-road solution, half-measures, short-cuts, or secular method to a full recovery. If you attend AA groups just to get court slips signed, please “take the cotton out of your ears, and put it in your mouth,” which suggests that you try to listen with an open mind, and comment or ask questions AFTER the meeting .

Studying the Steps is not the same as taking the Steps

The Big Book says, “Here are the steps we took” not ‘here are the steps we read and talked about.” We ought to study AS we take the steps. Going to a Big Book or 12&12 book study does NOT mean that you have ‘taken the steps.’  The AA pioneers proved that action, not knowledge, produced the spiritual awakening that resulted in recovery from alcoholism. “…we let God discipline us in the simple way we have just outlined. But this is not all. There is action and more action. Faith without works is dead.”

90 in 90’ is NOT taking the steps or working the AA Program

Archie M: “I wonder how many alcoholics upon finding out they had a deadly ailment and a doctor had a cure would sit in the doctor’s waiting room 90 times in 90 days (or for a year or more) and wait for the medicine to be administered to them. I also wonder how many alcoholics do the same thing concerning our 12 Steps; they go to 90 meetings in 90 days hoping to have a spiritual awakening without taking the Steps.”

Dr. Bob and the Good Oldtimers, page 101
“Dorothy S.M. recalled the 1937 meetings…”  “The newcomers surrendered in the presence of all those other people.  After the surrender, many of the steps—involving inventory, admission of character defects, and making restitution—were taken within a matter of days.”

How SOON should you take the steps?

Barefoot Bill Lash asks, “When do you want to get well?” Link here for his article on AA History Lovers group: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/AAHistoryLovers/message/6245

An excerpt:
“I have been scolded a few times (by fellow AAs) because of the fact that I sometimes share at meetings about how the Steps are meant to be worked immediately and quickly. I’ve been told that this “theory” will “harm” newcomers (having only a few days, a few weeks, or a few months) who could not possibly be “ready” to do the work yet. Then I’m usually told that these new members should just go to meetings for a while and eventually they’ll “know” when they are ready to get into the Program. In the early days of AA, when a new person showed up to their first meeting and asked about when they were going to get into working the Steps, established members usually asked them, “When do you want to get well?
If you want to get well now, we’ll be working the Steps now.
If you DON’T want to get well now, I guess you can put off the Steps, but by doing so you’re probably going to drink.” I do not agree that we first get our life together and then turn to God. I believe that we turn to God and then, AND ONLY THEN, do we begin to get our life together. That’s exactly what the Steps are all about.”

From the Akron Guide to The Twelve Steps—INTRODUCTION:
“The Twelve Steps are the logical process by which an alcoholic finds and maintains sobriety and becomes rehabilitated. It has been the history of AA that any alcoholic who has followed this program without deviation has remained sober. Those who have tried to cut corners, skip over steps, have eventually found themselves in trouble. This has been the rule rather than the exception.”
“It is important that the newcomer be introduced to the Twelve Steps at as early a date as possible. On these rules depend his full recovery. If you feel that the Steps are a bit too complicated at first, you can introduce them to your “baby” in a simplified form, going into the complete program later.”
The Twelve Steps follow a logical sequence, one that has been used almost universally by successful members of AA. They were carefully thought out by the founders of the organization and are as true and as necessary to successful recovery from alcoholism today as they were when they were written.”

If you have determined for yourself that you are seriously alcoholic, ask yourself, “Do I want to get well? …if so, how soon? …and am I now completely willing to follow a few simple rules for full recovery?”

Again—for the ‘seriously alcoholic’ there IS NO middle-of-the-road solution, half-measures, or short-cuts. As shown by early AA experience, we take the steps (action) ASAP IF we want to get well. We have our first spiritual awakening as the result of doing the work. As we continue to take the steps (more is disclosed to us as to what we had omitted during the first go-around), we have more spiritual awakenings. And so we continue on our daily spiritual maintenance to stay recovered from our seemingly hopeless state of mind and body.

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ETC, a recovered (but not cured) alcoholic in Oregon

Archie M: I wonder how many alcoholics upon finding out they had a deadly ailment and a doctor had a cure would sit in the doctor’s waiting room 90 times in 90 days (or for a year or more) and wait for the medicine to be administered to them. I also wonder how many alcoholics do the same thing concerning our 12 Steps; they go to 90 meetings in 90 days hoping to have a spiritual awakening without taking the Steps.”

 

10 Practical Points for Recovery

17 Mar

These TEN POINTS are from Chapter 5 of the A.A. Text — pgs 58-60

“Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path.” (that’s the path the early AAs took)

FIRST: If you are new to A.A., and have NOT YET read pages 1 to 43 in the text, (and ‘The Doctor’s Opinion’) then you do not know for sure if you ARE an alcoholic, or just a problem drinker. AA is a program of recovery for chronic alcoholics who have lost the power of choice in drink. If you can ‘take it or leave it,’ can still ‘choose not to drink today,’ or are pissed off because the judge sent you to meetings, please listen and ask questions after the meeting, because what you have to say may confuse the true alcoholic (who has an allergy to alcohol and cannot stop drinking on his/her own). You are a member of AA (as a whole) when you can honestly say that you are a real alcoholic, based on the Big Book’s description of the alcoholic (not your rehab counselor, your P.O. or S.O., your mama, or the guy sitting next to you at a meeting.)

IT WORKS WHEN YOU LIVE IT: If you have fully conceded to your innermost self that you are an alcoholic (according to the description in the BB), and have an honest desire to stop drinking, ASK YOURSELF:

  1. Am I willing to completely give myself to this simple Program?
  2. Am I developing and practicing rigorous honesty? …with myself and others?
  3. Am I willing to go to any lengths to recover, and to take the steps outlined on pgs 59 & 60?
  4. Do I completely realize there is no easier, softer way to full recovery?
  5. Am I willing to let go of my old ideas absolutely?
  6. Do I understand that I must be fearless and thorough in my practice of the principles… without being discouraged?
  7. Do I recognize that half measures will not work?
  8. Have I asked God’s protection and care with complete abandon?
  9. Am I willing to grow along spiritual lines?
  10. Do I accept the following pertinent ideas as proved by AA experience?
  • that I cannot manage my own life;
  • that probably no human power can restore me to sanity;
  • that God can and will if I seek Him.

Fortunately for all of us, perfection is never required, but striving (exerting ourselves) is a must.

note: The Ten Points are part of the All Addicts Anonymous program for full recovery.

ETC—a recovered (but not cured) alcoholic in Oregon